By: Brittany Horchner
As I sit here thinking about this topic of relationships, there is a quote that comes to mind. “Goodbyes are one of the hardest things about life. One way or another people were always leaving….always moving on.” That quote comes from Karen Kingsbury’s book, Leaving. The quote might seem sad, but it is true. Some people that are meant to be in one’s life for a season.
In my own life, I am reminded of my senior year of college. Someone that was my best friend started to slowly drift out of my life. At that time, we both had many things going on, which led me to have some unhealthy expectations. Looking back, I realized that the season of separation that we entered into was necessary. It was not easy, but it helped me recognize the importance of pouring into all of my friendships rather than just one friendship. Coming back home after college was extremely difficult, but I had another good friend of mine pour into me and help me to establish a healthier view of friendships overall. For a while, I thought that this college friendship would never come back, but recently I realized God had a different plan. Flash forward to this past August, I had a gut feeling to reach out to this person. Since then we have been redefining our friendship. It looks different than what it did before but it is healthier than what it was too.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:”
That verse helps remind me that there are many different seasons of life. Through those different seasons of life, there might be different people present in those stages and that is okay. One of the greatest lessons learned is that all of my friends have taught me something in the season of my life that they were present.
Right now, I want to speak to individuals that may have just lost a friendship or a relationship. I want to remind you that it is okay to grieve the loss of those relationships. Remind yourself that even through the loss you are worthy of love. Also, depending on the situation, take time to see if any of your priorities or expectations need to be shifted. Slow down and take time to reflect on the lessons that were learned through that relationship.
Cherish the memories that are made with all of your relationships as no matter what happens, the memories will always remain.